A family unit-now n then

Is it fair to say that the old generation bred like rabbits and the new generation...well.. 1 - 2 - 3....ooh no four is too much? Some even stopped at one. Hey! dont throw stones at me hehehe if i condemn the new generation i am condeming myself as well..

But it is somewhat true, isnt it?i mean in general, our parents' generation and their parents' generation have more number of kids than the general present family units. What's so different now n then?

Please correct me if i am wrong, i think in the old days, the girls got married at a very tender age. To be married at 14 even was considered normal. And by the age of 24, the girl may be a mother of 6? Sometimes, the mom play masak masak with her baby. Look at our new generation. To be married at 14? U HAVE GOT TO BE KiDDiNG!! That is form 2 (Secondary school) age u r talking about!! i dunno law but i dont think that is even a legal age to marry!!

And there is also the women's liberation. Women nowadays r much more highly educated than the women of the olden days. Let say they finish their undergraduate programme at the university, start working by the age of 24. Perhaps work a year or two before getting married.Just image, in the old days, u will be considered an *andartu* (old maid) by the time u get married today. Totally andartu..Nonetheless, at this time, that is what we consider normal. See how time has changed?

The woman may be working. To juggle a hubby and a kid...or kids.., the household chores.and the career..Can u imagine the responsibilities? Only superwoman can ever want consider having more than 2 or 3 kids..Work is stressful enough..and kids?? They may look angelic but..kids r kids right?? Of course for most women in the older generation, most of them were housewives. Their main role was to serve the family. They may help in the paddy field but still they do not have the vision much to become a career woman...not a lot of them at least

And the cost of living!! ouchhhh tell me about it..in the old times, people live in kampungs. They somehow grow their own vegetables, have chickens running around the house, perhaps a goat or a cow..life was definitely hard but food can be grown..Imagine today's world. Those living in cities like Kl. With single income, unless the hubby earns a lot, the family will have to go into a tight budget. Things r not cheap.. no money..no nothing. But then with double income, then the chances of breeding a lot may not be a desirable thing. Both will be busy working. Exhaustion. Hence, the family unit will be quite small. 2 working parents will also mean money for babysitter or even a full time live in maid?? money money..aiyoooo..money is the source of all problem..??? tu izhal yg cakap hhehehe

And then there is that family planning thing.. pills..etc..etc to prevent oneself from getting pregnant...

Whatever reasons there r...now n then r different. The change in the ways of thinking... cost of living..career enhancement..etc..etc..we cant expect things to be the same can we?


how can i afford a lot of babies if i cant support the baby properly? the house is too small.i think that kind of thoughts do cross our minds once in a while..

But then to think again, babies come out with their own rezekh..Like my own dad for example, his salary was meagre. Yet, he n my mom have 6 children together. One of my neighbours in Malaysia, she has 11!! Somehow they manage..why cant we?

I am a housewife..no career n i only have 2.. people do ask me..*tak nak tambah ka?* (dont u want to add another one?).. our original plan was to have 4.. somehow we gave a long break at 2..((halil's military service n what not)...i have never used any pills or whatever..we used to count the cycle within a month..now i notice my hubby has stopped counting. Does this mean what i think he means????