My Wedding Ring

All stomachs full. I managed to do a bit of plate cleaning before mıstık (baba's male house helper) threw me out of the kitchen. Well, i wont complain. I dunno why, i always end up wetting (not my pants but) the front part of my t-shirt whenever i enter the kitchen for cooking or cleaning.And the irritating part would be,halil or baba or even mıstık would tell me to change my t-shirt everytime. *Ah..ur t-shirt is wet..u will get sick..go change*, they would say..I never did listen to them anyway.Hey! in Sapanca i enter the kitchen a thousand times a day. The kitchen is my santuary..my escape from looking after any little ones hahahahaha (no offence to anyone).There is no way i would change my t-shirt a thousand times.

They even bought or more correctly, my dad in law gave me money by force a few years back so that i would buy myself an apron to use in the kitchen in Sapanca.It is still there in the kitchen. hung at the kitchen door. I do use it sometimes..if i feel like it..

Anyway, back to the story. Yup dinner was over. I was in the living room when i realised that my finger felt light. My wedding ring!!! It was gone!!! My heart felt like it was broken into pieces. In front of the crowd, somehow crying, i told halil that i lost the wedding ring. I immediately started crying so bad that i rushed to the bedroom upstairs. Everybody was panicked. Simah was crying. Everybody looked everywhere in the house to find my ring. The balcony, underneath the couch, the garden, everywhere!They even tried to find it in the pool..just in case it fell there while i was swimming during the day (trying to find a white gold ring in a pool at night? hehehe)..no hope..nobody saw anything. After thinking that i was calmed down a bit, i went downstairs. The flow of tears again came flooding by especially when the ladies tried to comfort me. Waaaaaaaaaaa...my wedding ringggggggg.........my one n only beloved wedding ring..... I cried like i never cried before in front of everybody.I am not the type to cry like that..if i cry, i prefer to cry in my room n no one will know about it..but this time, the loss was so deep, i could not contain myself.I was sobbing so bad that my body shook so terribly.

And suddenly, özlem (my sister in law) appeared from the kitchen holding my ring!!!! And where did she find that ring?? It was inside the pressure cooker, together with the leftover rice for dinner!! The ring must have slipped inside it while i was washing the rice!!! It seemed that everyone that day had eaten white gold rice!! heheheheh..Thanks özlem for finding my ring. Thanks everyone else for trying to look for my ring.

My reaction towards the loss shocked me. I never knew that i prized my wedding ring that much. I thought if one day i lose the ring, i wouldnt mind at all. How wrong i was. It may not be a fancy ring. Just a plain white gold wedding ring to match halil's silver colored wedding ring. Yet, that is the ring that has *halil* written underneath it. That is the ring given to me after our nikah. That is the ring that symbolises our love..mine n his, our union of love. I guess that was the reason for my total devastation that night. Yes. The ring is still with me...i will definitely take it out before i cook or take a bath..though i somehow live in fear that i will lose it one day..coz i dont want to.

So anyone out there yang teringin nak makan Nasik Cincin Emas Putih.. sila la datang ke rumah saya..boleh saya masakkan hehehehehehehe..eh mana tahu..mungkin nanti boleh jadi awek muda??? heheheheheh

There is a tradition in the turkish culture which we did after our nikah in Malaysia. After the akad ceremony in Pejabat Agama Kepala Batas, we all went to my parents' house. I was not notified of this at that time. It was all a shock to me as well. After we reached our home, halil's mom took out 2 rings tied to a ribbon at each end. The groom would put (sarungkan) a ring to the bride's finger and the bride would do the same with the other ring. Then, there would be doa and the dad (in our case halil's dad) would cut the middle part of the ribbon. There was a bit of confusion for our case coz we(halil n i) could not determine which ring belonged to whom coz white gold n silver looked the same to us. Luckily there were names written underneath each ring. So..i got to wear the one meant for me and halil got to wear the one meant for him. i was so relieved that the akad was over that it never crossed my mind about the wedding ring. I wouldnt even ask for a ring if i hadnt got any.Yup, i was that weird. And yes! i got one wedding ring. I asked meşe today the symbol of the 2 rings tied to the ribbon.. From what i understand, when 2 rings r tied to a ribbon or string, it symbolizes the link that will be created in between the future wearers of the 2 rings. When the rings r worn by the wearers, the future is then created. The ribbon n the string will then be cut to represent that the rings r with the owners, who r unique to himself or herself; together they will sail the journey of a marriage together.

another culture in turkey.. for engangement n wedding ceremonies, people usually give jewelleries to the bride.. necklace, bracelet, ring, gold coin,money etc..etc.. Normally,the bride will wear all the jewelleries she get from the people on her during the wedding. So u can imagine right (esp those rich people), how many gold or even pearl they get and all those on the bride's body??? Ni kira perfect target utk pencuri la ni..the weight should be tremendous!! i remember a somebody ..a singer perhaps in turkey. This one girl got married n she received i think 15 kilograms of gold from somebody in a form of a necklace!!!! Gilaaaaaaaaa ..tu satu hadiah aja..u can imagine la other gifts kan? The family must be extremely ultra rich!! She was like a gold goddess, glittering with gold.Of course that is not in my case.. i did not know the culture then. For our wedding dinner in istanbul in hidiv kasre, i only wore the one i got from anne n baba. Simplicity i think is best.

Back to memory lane..these were snapped after the ribbon was cut. We took off the ribbon from the rings and again exchanged the wedding ring..The guy in green is my dad..