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batman : Hi, how r u?
ref : I'm fine thanks
batman : where from?

And it went on from there...These r not the exact words we used..but close enough...The funny thing is, i did not remember that conversation...I did not even remember that nickname until after quite many days later where i recieved an email from him introducing himself from our previous chat.

Yes. It is true. Halil n i met each other in a chat program. Cyberlove..One in Malaysia and the other one in Turkey.

I was doing my under graduate programme in UKM. I was also working part time at an internet cafe inside UKM itself. While working, one pc will be free for the use of the staffs. I took that opportunity to chat and and at the same time to type my thesis. Halil was trying to finish his master thesis at that time.

Now that i think back, how can u fall in love with someone without knowing who he is? How can u get to know who someone really is from just chatting and exchanging emails? Words may be used to deceive..if not he perhaps i..it is possible. Can words represent who one is? One's look? Each party may send somebody else's photo. Cyberlove is really a risky business indeed...

True, internet is a wonderful tool for making new friends and even finding love. If one's friend or love is within one's country, within reach, then the matter is somehow simplified. One can easily meet up to decide (if it is love) whether they are made for each other. What about the ones like in mine n halil's case? We were thousands of miles away from each other. E-mails, chats n short phone calls could not ensure that we were made for each other. To see is to be sure. But in such long distance relationship, unless the guy is extremely rich, then they can meet up quite often to make sure of the decision.

I have mentioned many times in my blog. We muslims r lucky. The istikharah prayer is indeed something powerful to help one to decide. In my case, once the prayer was done, the clue pointed me to halil, despite Allah knows the obstacles, i never did look back. Yes. I was selfish. Yet, it was what i had to do to ensure my happiness.

In many cases, if one is to marry someone from another place....ok, let us be realistic.. for example even within Malaysia itself. The girl is from Negeri Sembilan for example and the guy is from Kelantan.2 different cultures in every sense. Pedas vs Manis, nogori accent vs kelate accent, the family culture and what not. Even within one's country, the differences in culture can be a reason to a failed marriage.

Imagine inter continent marriage. Aiyooo...u can imagine right? Different languages, dfferent in everything...totally scary.

But that is the beauty of life.. who ever u marry..where ever u decide to live, however the culture is..it is one's willingness to adapt to the current surrounding that is important. If u shut urself out from change, only wanting and insisting what u want, never trying to understand what is...being ego... then hope is lost for u in anything..

Halil n i met once before we got married. We caught the chemistry while i was introducing him to the palm oil trees and rubber trees near my parents area..We got married. We have 2 beautiful angels. Like any couple, we fight, we love...and we compromise each other. 7 years is still too young for a marriage...hopefully we both will grow wiser as times goes by..

p.s Syikin n Shami.. i hope this entry has answered ur question about how halil n 1 met.
p.s.x Sherin..ni ha i dah letak gambar i kawin..ni masa bersanding :0)