An experience turned nightmare
It started as a sweet dream. My çiçeğim will be starting her pre-school education. The only concern was the question of which school of the normal 2 to choose. We made a decision with hatice's approval . On the registration day...that was when it all started..
It was not the school's fault. The fault is never with them.The fault lies in bla bla bla bla only.Only with bla bla bla . Everybody went crazy. Halil n i had many sleepless nights over it. Baba n Meşe as well. Hatice was so sad that at nights i cried thinking of her. What saddens her, saddens me. She is a part of me.My empathy for her feelings are borne naturally into me the moment she was born or perhaps even before that. It was as if a heavy dark cloud was shadowing over our days.
The experience became a nightmare. That is until Meşe made that one phone call...and at last..the sun is shining again ...and now my daughter is a registered pre-school student of the school of her choice. U cannot imagine the relief it was to us all..But what should have been a wonderful beginning to a new experience for hatice became a nightmare not only for her but for us all. My only hope is that she will sail thru her education life in a happy mode-carefree in whatever she is in. Please pray for her.
Of course as parents u wanna the best for ur kids. U dream only of good things for ur child or children. It is only normal for us parents. I too have my own hopes n dreams for my kids. But i think it is wrong for us parents to force our hopes n dreams on the kids. It is better if they make their own decisions on what they wanna do..no matter how wrong the decision may be. We as parents, no matter how hard it is, need only be the helper to guide the skipper in making the decision. Not force them into it coz if a child does things for others n not for herself or himself, she or he is bound to rebel one day.
I dunno what kind of a mom with a schooling kid i will be..but i will try my best to be not so much of a bossy, forceful mom..though if she is lazy to finish her homework..i definitely will scold her..but the choices in her life..i will leave that to her..n it begins with the choice of her school.She will be whatever she chooses to be...that is her freedom. But i hope she will grow up to be a decent person with good moral values n good manerism. That i will insist on.
*chuckles* i think i have bored u enough..endure me ..i am a mom after all..:0)
It was not the school's fault. The fault is never with them.The fault lies in bla bla bla bla only.Only with bla bla bla . Everybody went crazy. Halil n i had many sleepless nights over it. Baba n Meşe as well. Hatice was so sad that at nights i cried thinking of her. What saddens her, saddens me. She is a part of me.My empathy for her feelings are borne naturally into me the moment she was born or perhaps even before that. It was as if a heavy dark cloud was shadowing over our days.
The experience became a nightmare. That is until Meşe made that one phone call...and at last..the sun is shining again ...and now my daughter is a registered pre-school student of the school of her choice. U cannot imagine the relief it was to us all..But what should have been a wonderful beginning to a new experience for hatice became a nightmare not only for her but for us all. My only hope is that she will sail thru her education life in a happy mode-carefree in whatever she is in. Please pray for her.
Of course as parents u wanna the best for ur kids. U dream only of good things for ur child or children. It is only normal for us parents. I too have my own hopes n dreams for my kids. But i think it is wrong for us parents to force our hopes n dreams on the kids. It is better if they make their own decisions on what they wanna do..no matter how wrong the decision may be. We as parents, no matter how hard it is, need only be the helper to guide the skipper in making the decision. Not force them into it coz if a child does things for others n not for herself or himself, she or he is bound to rebel one day.
I dunno what kind of a mom with a schooling kid i will be..but i will try my best to be not so much of a bossy, forceful mom..though if she is lazy to finish her homework..i definitely will scold her..but the choices in her life..i will leave that to her..n it begins with the choice of her school.She will be whatever she chooses to be...that is her freedom. But i hope she will grow up to be a decent person with good moral values n good manerism. That i will insist on.
*chuckles* i think i have bored u enough..endure me ..i am a mom after all..:0)
posted by simah at 9:08 PM
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8 Comments:
simah:
*smile and chuckles*
Sweet inner thoughts of a mom...and no need to apologize for taking time to share them...so kind of u to share in the first place.
Enjoyed reading.
The trick i think is in getting the child to want to well themselves. We can only offer support and help.
IDHAM
blownaway
u r right of course..after all u have years of experience in parenting..n i have got loads to learn..
Thanks for those kind words :0)
Simah ...dulu masa nak daftar anak kak lady for pre-school pun kitorang pergi survey macam2 sekolah tadika kat sini...tapi alhamdullillah sekolah tadika kat sini kalau yang private tu banyak persamaanya...cuma bergantung pada guru-guru yang mengajar....
Tapi disebabkan dia baru 5 tahun...kak lady tak maulah terlalu menekan pada pembelajaran...cuma yang kak lady mau ialah supaya dia pandai bergaul dan dpt melakukan aktiviti-aktiviti yang boleh menjana minda...dan membesar menjadi lebih kreativ
Simah, what actually happened?
But I am glad to know everything turned out well. Once she settles into the routine, Hatice will begin to enjoy school. You know, the moment you send your kid off to school, they start to be 'big' in your eyes ... no longer a baby, and you know that pretty soon they will start to develop their independent self. Sniff ... I miss my little babies (now semua dah besar)...
Alhamdulillah...settled :) Tak pa cuba bagi benda yang baik2 untuk anak2, mudah-mudahan esok2 dia dah besar dia kenang jasa mak bapa dia aminnnnn
insyaAllah she will be a good person when she grows up. Being a good mother yourself, will definitely produce a good daughter , InsyaAllah...
kak lady
sekolah yg kitaorang nak hantar hatice ni pon sekolah private jugak..dia orang bangunan dlm bangunan sekolah rendah dia n dia sekolah chain.jadi pasal quality tu memang standard n cool...like 8 hours of english a week..computer lessons etc etc..
saya pun setuju dengan kak lady..saya pun mahu dia berkembang dia punya minda sebab dlm bab creativiti n minda. Buat apa nak paksa sangat pembelajaran kan=? this is after all only a pre school :0)
queen of the house
it is not that ur babies r getting older..it is ur getting old *wink* heheheheeh
ni kes bab orang atasan tak tahu apa maksud respect dan cara peradaban dlm percakapan dengan orang terutamanya orang yg kebih tua. bila dah kak ipar saya call orang lagi atas dr orang atas ni..Alhamdulillah settle segalanya..dgn full apology lagi.....adab betapa pentingnya dlm hidup..
alinlai
amin..i just want my kids to be happy..tapi kalau bila kita dah tua dan dia ingat kita lagila bagus..insyaAllah
mak lang
amin..semoga Allah memakbulkan doa mak lang though i am not so sure about me being a good mom bit :0) i still have got loads to learn about being a mom...
simah:
U have ventured into the world of a mum with schooling kid/s. Hehehhe.. Now, there are diff kind of worries pula but never fear, I know that you'll be great at it.
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